🤯 It’s Not Worth It To Get Jealous Anymore

Frankly, I can’t guarantee that I still don’t get envious at times but I’ve certainly eliminated all possibilities and traps that could lead me to lower my self-esteem.

After all, “if we were all the same, the world would be extremely boring.” Yes, everyone says that and I can confirm that I have no special intellectual diction power with using popularized quotes from the web.

I’m cool with that.

I’m probably one of the few teenagers that I know of that DOESN’T have any social media, except for LinkedIn and Facebook, if that counts. And, unless I know you, please don’t friend me.

Yes, I know. You can now unfriend me because I said that.

If you want to waste your time, which I don’t recommend, look me up online. I’ve pretty secretive and anonymous. I choose to keep it that way. No flashy banners or fake promotions about me. The reason why I prefer to not be on social media is because of the numbers and followers. No matter what I post, I will make someone feel bad about themselves. I’ve always felt this way online and to relieve stress off my plate, I simply choose not to display my life. I’m officially a grandma.

The truth is: We will always find something wrong with ourselves and that is fine.

To provide more details, I’ve had Instagram and Snapchat since middle school up till high school. High school in itself is an awkward and bizarre time that no one probably, at least for me, that I would never want to experience again.

Everything from acne to getting awkward eye stares from your peers that you never understood why they dislike you happens in high school.

To be honest, at the time, I didn’t know any better on how to handle it. I took it very personally and tried to figure out all the flaws I had and backtrack my actions to how I might have ruined their lives.

Please don’t ask me about my strategy plan. Yes, I created one back then and still questioning it to this day. 😵

Now, maybe a little late to the game, IDK (I don’t know) for any readers that are above 30, I’ve learned that not everyone in the world will like you.

In the first five seconds of meeting someone online or even worse, in person, people will make assumptions. We just do! We can’t help make judgments upon a person. That is why we are more comfortable to die than public speaking.

We don’t want to hear critical feedback and see other’s reactions. Humans are extremely self-conscious.

Thankfully, I’ve learned to let that fear of embarrassment go.

In fact, I don’t want everyone to like me because that means they are either having a bad day and blaming their problems on me, and most importantly, NOBODY SHOULD like me all the time.

Yeah, I said it. I want to shine my flaws and make sure people understand I’m human. If someone likes me all the time, that means there is something wrong on their side and with me.

Getting back to social media.

It was a big commitment for me to stop completely. I tried weekly on and off sessions but I was still obsessed in an unhealthy way. I had a pretty decent following on those platforms and I constantly tracked it. But it meant nothing to me. I didn’t gain more connections or learn more, I grew in stats which mean nothing thankfully to a college admissions officer. As these platforms have risen in popularity, so have advertising, marketing, and free promotional content to create a brand out of yourself.

I don’t see social media as something that is fun. It is a place where you will get hooked into nonsense and read the information that you cannot deem to be true. You will pick up slang dances and promote your brand for the money, not make new friends. People will ask to friend you when you have no idea who they are. I could go on and on. Of course, feel free to continue using these platforms to waste your time. 🙅‍♀️

We all get jealous. The way you react and interpret what you don’t have will set you apart.

This method, put into practice of course, has subsided my jealousy.

There will always be richer, smarter, brilliant (frankly I don’t know what that means), prettier, you name it, you can say you don’t have it!

Realize that you will never become someone and you have to stop wasting your time fixating on things you cannot control.

THINK ABOUT WHAT MAKES YOU JEALOUS. YOU SOMETIMES CANNOT MAKE THOSE CHANGES IN YOURSELF, BUT YOU CAN FIX YOUR MENTALITY AND UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU HAVE THAT IS DIFFERENT.

You cannot obsess and live your life like that. Similarly to my first post about saving and maximizing my time to the full potential. Be mindful of how you spend it. I’m not wasting my time writing this article.

I’m doing it because I want to help you. I wouldn’t do this if I didn’t think it would work.

My words will certainly not change you stubborn teenagers’ addicted social media minds. But, I hope you realize that every time you get your weekly screen time report, make sure to acknowledge that it is YOUR CHOICE and YOU DOhave the power to change it.

And to make it clear. I have no problem with you using social media. I just thought this would be enough to talk about why I’m MIA on social, no pun intended, and tips on how I decluttered my mind, one like at a time.

What do you all Gen Zers and other Gens think about our social media platforms?

Are you over it or love how it has transformed the world?

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Mia Gradelski

Mia Gradelski

21-yr-old personal finance enthusiast making sense of cents. You can boil it down here as well: https://boilednotfried.com